of Man Freethinkers have trained celebrants who can help you devise
non-religious ceremonies such as for Baby Naming, Weddings and Funerals
on the Isle of Man.
We will meet you to share some
ideas about the words and music that you would like to have. We
can lend you books of poems and suggest suitable music if necessary. We
will then write a script based on your ideas and agree with you the
final version. There is a modest charge for our services. We work with
all the funeral directors on the island.
important throughout our lives to mark significant occasions. Our
ceremonies are individual and personal and you can include children,
relatives, friends, and colleagues.
We have officiated
at such events all over the Island including outdoor venues. Our
Funerals may be part of a cremation or burial service.
All our ceremonies are dignified and appropriate for the occasion. For more information please contact use at firstname.lastname@example.org.
The following are examples of the ceremonies we often officiate at but this is by no means an exhaustive list.
a baby’s birth must be registered within 42 days a baby naming ceremony
can take place at any time. It can be in your home before a party or at
a suitable larger venue if you want to include more people. With our
ceremonies you can include older brothers and sisters too.
Instead of ‘godparents’ you can have mentors or supporting adults who will help the child as they grow up.
will meet you to discuss what form you want the baby naming ceremony to
take. It can include readings, poetry and music just as you wish. We
can lend you books to help you with your planning. Then we will write a
script and agree with you on the final version. Every detail of the
ceremony will be planned beforehand. There is a modest fee for our time
Ceremonies for older children can be very
meaningful and enjoyable because their personality has begun to
develop. You can welcome them into your family as unique individuals
and devise a baby naming ceremony that reveals how much you love and
care for them.
you must be married in a church or at one of the four register offices
on the island. These are at Douglas, Ramsey, Castletown and Peel.
you don’t have religious beliefs or find the standard register office
ceremony too impersonal and formal you may like to consider a humanist
wedding. This will be your special day and it is important that you can
relax and enjoy it.
Many people regard the humanist ceremony as the most important one because they have helped to create it themselves.
celebrant will meet you and discuss what you want to do and what you
want to say e.g. you can light a candle, exchange rings, and make
promises to each other. We can lend you books to help with the
planning. The celebrant will help you to devise the ceremony just as
you want it. There is a modest fee for our time and expertise.
venue can be virtually anywhere on the island. Many people choose an
attractive local glen or a coastal site such as Maughold Head. The
wedding can also take place in a suitable building.
couples choose to go to the register office for the legal ceremony on
the same day as their humanist one. Others go a few days before. It’s
of us have been to religious funerals, which can be disappointing
because they are very formal and say very little about the person we
With a non-religious
funeral there is more freedom to celebrate a life and to pay tribute in
a personal way. You can include readings, poems, music and tributes
from different people.
If you have to organise a
funeral just tell the funeral director that you want a non-religious
funeral and they will get in touch with one of the Isle of Man
Freethinkers’ celebrants. Our fee will be paid through the funeral
director as a ‘disbursement’.
A celebrant will meet you
to share some ideas and to talk about the person who has died. They may
look at photographs. They will certainly put together a life history,
which celebrates a life rather than dwelling on the circumstances of
their death. They will spend some time with you sharing memories and
gathering information, which can be used in the ceremony. You will have
an opportunity to share your feelings. They can lend you books to help
choose poems or readings.
When the celebrant has written
the script they will send it to you and make any changes that you wish.
They will also listen to the music and take it to the crematorium or
Whether they have religious beliefs or not
people will find our ceremonies dignified and sincere. Many people
comment on how personal and moving they are. They can even be joyful.
often have to be organised at short notice - probably a few days at the
most. But you can plan your own funeral in advance. It is a good idea
to write down the details of what you would prefer e.g. you can choose
the music you would like.
When the time comes it will help those who are responsible for organising things to carry out your wishes.
who are terminally ill find that it helps the family come to terms with
what is happening and planning the ceremony can be a positive focus for
Our celebrants can conduct non-religious
cremations, burials and the scattering of ashes. They can also perform
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There are dozens of natural or woodland burial sites in the British Isles and they are listed in the 5th edition of the Natural Death Centre handbook £24 from www.naturaldeath.org.uk
Isle of Man Freethinkers would like to see a natural burial site on the Island.